‘Part of me died’: MP Jamie Wallis comments on rape trauma | Rape and sexual assault

Conservative MP Jamie Wallis has said that “part of me died” when he was raped, as he called for more support for the victims and confirmed that he intends to go over to live as a woman.

Wallis, a Bridgend MP, said since he issued a statement last month that he had been raped, that he had been approached by a “shocking” number of men and women who had had similar experiences.

“None of us, no matter who you are or which side of the House of Commons you sit on, you can not get it right until we have an understanding of how widespread this is,” he said, adding, “at some point we need to find a way to identify people who need… who have been through this trauma and need help ”.

Speaking of his own experience, Wallis said: “I met someone I liked and things actually started out pretty well. Then I was not ok with not being what I consider to be responsible and practicing safety in the bedroom, and so pulled I agreed back and then there was… so he just decided he wanted to do it anyway and I was powerless to stop him. ”

He added: “At that moment part of me died and I have been trying to get it back ever since.”

Wallis spoke to Sophy Ridge on Sky News, saying, “I tried to forget it for a couple of weeks, and it almost worked, almost worked, but then you start having nightmares, flashbacks, it starts recording all your thoughts, and you find yourself just staring into the distance because you think about it again and that was where I chose to get some help. ”

Wallis stunned colleagues last month when he released a statement late at night revealing that he is transgender, as well as the fact that he had been raped.

It happened a few hours after Boris Johnson did what some in Westminster interpreted as a transphobic joke at a private Tory dinner, saying, “Good evening, ladies and gentlemen – or as Keir Starmer would say, people who become assigned to a woman or a man at birth. ”

After Wallis came out as a trans, Johnson praised him for his bravery. The MP said he had received support from across the political spectrum.

Speaking of his gender dysphoria, Wallis said he was eight years old when he first felt discomfort with what he called “my physical characteristics”.

“I think I was eight years old when I was trying to figure out what this was, because it would have been 1991, 1992, and there was not the fast access to the Internet, there was no one else in my community at home that had this or that I knew about, so I had no idea what it was, ”he said, explaining that he had not talked to anyone about it, and tried to displace it for many years.

Wallis confirmed he wanted to “begin the transition process”, which he expected would be “challenging and difficult”, urging others not to wait that long.

“You have a long life, I would not wait as long as I have waited – I’m 37, maybe you could move a little faster than that – but in fact there is nothing wrong with just taking some time and discovering yourself and not hurry to pick up a label or see it somehow but when you know who you are you are ready and you want to tell the world that there are people like me waiting and we are accommodating, we are kind and we are here to help and support, ”he said.

He added: “It’s a transition; it’s a journey and I can start that journey now without worrying about being seen or what people will say or anything like that.”

In the UK, Rape Crisis offers support for rape and sexual abuse on 0808 802 9999 in England and Wales, 0808 801 0302 in Scotland or 0800 0246 991 in Northern Ireland. In the United States, Rainn offers support at 800-656-4673. In Australia, support is available from 1800Respect (1800 737 732). Other international guides can be found at ibiblio.org/rcip/internl.html

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