Frances Bean Cobain celebrated a milestone birthday this week, one she wasn’t always sure she’d live to see.
The daughter passed away on Wednesday Courtney Love and late Nirvana frontman Kurt Cobain posted a series of photos on Instagram from the past year to commemorate turning 30. Frances wrote in the caption, “30!!! I did it! Honestly, 20-year-old Frances wasn’t sure it would happen. At the time, an inherent sense of deep self-loathing dictated by insecurities, destructive coping mechanisms and more trauma informed than my body or brain could handle, how I saw myself and the world; through a lens of anger at being brought into a life that seemed to attract so much chaos and the kind of pain tied to grief that felt inevitable.” Frances’ father died by suicide when he was 27 and she was just 1 year old, and her mother has been open about her struggles with addiction over the years, revealing in 2020 that she was 18 months sober.
Frances went on to explain that “an event on a plane that brought me closer to death is ironically the event that catapulted me toward running on this lived experience of radical gratitude. I am happy to have proven that I am wrong and to have found ways to transform pain into knowledge.” She added: “There’s a quote by @jaiyajohn I hold close which is ‘the softer she got with herself, the softer she got with the world.’ It’s a feeling I try to remember daily.” The artist concluded: “As I enter this new decade I hope to stay soft, no matter how hard the world can feel at times, bask in the moment with reverence, shower the people I’m lucky enough to love with more appreciation than words could ever do justice and keep room to keep learning so the growth never stops. I’m glad to be here and I’m glad you’re here too.”
In one of the photos celebrating the 29th year of her life, Frances posed with her new boyfriend, Riley Hawkson of a famous skateboarder Tony Hawk. The couple confirmed their relationship on Instagram at the beginning of the year, when Frances shared a carousel of photos of things that brought her “a great amount of joy” during 2021, which happened to include a few pictures of the professional skateboarder. Frances was previously married to Isaiah Silvawho tied the knot in 2014. But the couple went their separate ways 21 months later and finalized their divorce in 2017. In the legal filings, the couple cited “irreconcilable differences” as the reason, per People, and Frances stated that her ex should not be entitled to any money from her late father’s estate, which is valued at $450 million. But in dividing their assets, one of their disputes was over the ownership of the 1959 Martin D-18E Cobain played during his iconic 1993 MTV disconnected set, which Frances ultimately lost to Silva in the tiebreaker. In 2020, the guitar was put up for auction.